How can i change my privacy settings so everyone/everyone can message me? Chat und Nachrichten. Asked about 4 years ago von Tim 'crawfy' Crawford. Hi. I'm not sure what it is you wish to make more private. Private messages are always private between the people in the conversation. If you are referring to who. If you're getting harassed through Facebook messages, you can take control back Set your friend request privacy settings to "Everyone" or "Friends of friends.